Let’s talk about taking only ONE of your kids on a vacation because I’ve heard from quite a few moms that say taking only one of your kiddos on a vacation is wrong and/or not “fair” to the others. Sorry, not sorry but they’re wrong. I’ll tell you why Taking Your Child On a Solo Vacation is important for the both of you.
Taking Your Child On a Solo Vacation
I’ve wanted take a one-on-one vacation for a long time and last week I finally had the chance to do it. In May I decided for my daughter’s 9th birthday I would take her on vacation – ALONE. Just her and I to somewhere special. I booked a 3-day Royal Caribbean cruise to the Bahamas that I knew would be perfect. Nothing long or crazy but it this was her first cruise so even though it was only 3 days, it was major.
“taking just one of your kids on a vacation is wrong and not “fair”.” Sorry, not sorry but you’re wrong.
If you have multiple kids you know how important it is to take each of them out alone. Maybe that means going to the movies just the two of you, or on a Target run, or shopping. Spending time with one child at a time helps to create and strengthen the bond between you two and helps to let that child know they are (still) important despite having other siblings around that may demand your time and attention. This is especially important when kids are younger and a new baby is introduced into the family.
I don’t see a vacation as any different. If you take a vacation along with your spouse then you already see how it is beneficial to that relationship. Why would it be any different with your children? My daughter and I had 3 days to talk, to laugh, and to experience new adventures together. It was so great to devote those days to her and I.
THE BENEFITS –
Of course, there are many benefits of one-on-one travel including:
- Bonding time.
- More kids = more travel for you!
- Less expensive.
- Creating priceless memories and photos.
THEIR DIFFERENCES –
My kids have very different personalities – almost like night and day. With an age gap of almost 6 years between my oldest and middle children and almost 4 years between my youngest and middle child. Not to mention the youngest is a boy and of course he differs from his sisters completely. That being said, while one loves adventure, the other likes to be relaxed and be indoors. Going on a solo vacation lets you cater to what each child can and can’t do depending on their age and their interest. It’s not completely impossible on family trips but most of the time someone is left out on an activity because of age/size alone.
QUALITY TIME –
As I said before, quality time one-on-one alone with them is probably my #1 reason for solo traveling. You might think you know your kids but they change interests almost daily. They’re growing fast and it’s important to have time put aside to learn who they are as an individual, to who they are when they’re around the rest of their siblings, often competing for attention.
THE COST –
Let’s face it, taking a family vacation with five people is not cheap. Traveling to a destination that is usually out of reach is easier when it’s only two of you. Now that we have our passports, my oldest is already brainstorming on where we could go on our trip.